Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Thursday, October 01, 2009
I have always procrastinated doing this, but today, after learning about my friend's loss, I think my unborn child has every right to be named. I still wonder if it is a boy or girl, but Allah knows best. The name suits either gender. And best of all, it means a lot to me. Abundance..that is what Allah has given us. Yet, we always fail to realise. My baby who was with me from October 2007 till December 2007 will always be part of me. Kautsar has also made me aware of how life is too transient to be significant. Kautsar preferred to be where eternity is and where evil can't touch.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
We do not deserve to be given Islam. It is all by Allah's grace. We are nobody, and really needy. And on the topic of advising others on their mistakes, we must always remember that we shouldn't dishonor the person who makes a mistake, but instead we should use creative ways so that the person knows we want to help him/her.
I also wish to remind myself that there is a greater world of muslim people out there and many have been given great 'ujian' especially those who are involved in natural calamities and war. My heart and prayers go out to them. May Allah unite our hearts and lead us in the path of peace. Amin..Ya Rabbal 'alamin.
Saturday, September 05, 2009
Sometimes, I wish I can live life on a daily basis. Spend only on what I need for the day, and not as if I live for the next few months or even years. Now I feel the crunch of spending even on cheap things. Because the total cost of all cheap things bought does equal to an expensive stuff that I may have avoided. I vouch no longer to spend on these unnecessary things be it a reward I deserve or a really cheap thing. From now on, I hope I can live humbly and with gratitude over what I already have and not hoping for the worldly stuff that I do not have. An investment is only on education, knowledge, food, health and religious causes.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
1. To think of Allah's redha in everything I do
2. To give 100% sincerity in fulfilling my responsibilities as a wife, mom, daughter and most importantly as someone whose life is owed to Allah's generosity
3. To read at least one page of Qur'an everyday
4. To be more generous with my smile when I meet others outside, even if they do not wish to smile at me
5. To have only one place to share my feelings, be it happiness or anguish. The place shall be in my own heart directly with Allah, because only He knows best
6. To not talk about other's weaknesses
7. To invest my time for akhirat, not for the search of pahala, but for the ability to meet Allah and His Messenger, Nabi Muhammad
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
"A total waste of skills?" Very wrong perception that is. As an author named Dorothy Patterson said..
"Homemaking — being a full-time wife and mother — is not a destructive drought of uselessness but an overflowing oasis of opportunity; it is not a dreary cell to contain your talents and skills but a brilliant catalyst to channel creativity and energies into meaningful work ... it is neither limitation of gifts available nor stinginess in distributing the benefits of those gifts, but rather the multiplication of a mother's legacy to the generations to come and the generous bestowal of all God meant a mother to give to those He entrusted to her care."
What is there to look forward to at the end of earning much and spending it all on expensive items when you can spend much less and enjoy the time with your baby which is exactly what a baby needs most? Why earn and then buy more things for everyone when these things may not necessarily make them happy? The truth is everyone is trapped in the dual income mindset as Heather Koerner puts it best. We spend as if there is we have two persons earning in the house, when we should only consider just a sole breadwinner (the husband) and the wife's income should be all saved as surplus. THIS makes us complacent and starts to spend more.
For me, I firmly stand by my decision to Stay and Work at Home. I do not want to miss out on my child's development, her joy and discoveries. To have a career can be any time much later when my girl has gone to school. But now, especially the first two years of her life, it is important that I share my life with her as much as I can. To teach her new things, understand her emotions, and make her laugh.
I cannot imagine myself working in an office and leaving her to be understood by others who do not know her more than her mom does. Especially when she is still new to the world, and needs my presence to motivate her in her learning journey.
For the people who still frown or laugh at a SAHM, God may be laughing at your ignorance...Because He knows way more than you think you do.