Friday, March 17, 2017

How to Wear Khimar - Tips for Plus Size

How to Wear Khimar - Tips for the Big Sized

I have a growing interest in more modest hijab and usually find comfort in chiffon khimars. As a beginner, there are a number of things that I have to learn through experience.

Here are a few tips which I have discovered as I familiarise myself with khimar as my hijab. Great tips to bring focus away from the chest area...

1. The colour of your khimar must be DARKER or the SAME colour as your dress. This shifts the focus away from the core area.

2. The material of the khimar must be dull, not shiny.

3. Since there's a lot of fabric as your hijab now, choose dark or flowery. Not light and plain. Else, you risk getting spots of stains.

4. To avoid getting the khimar raised up when blown by strong wind, make sure you keep a few safety pins handy in your purse, so you can secure your khimar any time.

5. When you need to bring up the khimar, especially when going to the ladies or washing the dishes, simply twirl the fabric around the neck and secure the free end with a safety pin.

May these tips help...and may Allah s.w.t. love us more...

Thursday, February 02, 2017

Barakah = No Stress

It's the new economy where everything from food to education is just getting less and less affordable. Everyone is scrambling to secure a good future for their children. Even if it means missing their solah, Even if it means lying to their customers, colleagues or bosses. Even if it means neglecting their children's spiritual development.
 Na'udhubillahi mindhalik.

At the end of the day, all these will boil down to emotional stress, far from contentment. There is simply NO barakah.
What is it about surviving this slow economy that should really matter?

Let's recall the du'a of Prophet Ibrahim a.s. as he left his beloved wife and child in the middle of the lifeless valley. The one du'a he emphasised is so that his children perform their solah regularly. Quran 14:37

Why wasn't safety at the top of the du'a list? Or rizq?

Because he knew that when a person does solah, Allah s.w.t. will take care of all his/her other needs. When you are not with your child, Allah s.w.t. will take care of that child. Like how Allah s.w.t. took care of Prophet Ismail a.s. on the barren land. When our children are in school or hanging out with their friends, the only thing that is between Allah's protection and the devil's whisperings is solah. SubhanAllah.

May Allah s.w.t. bless us with children who dutifuly perform their solah, and remember Him wherever they are, in our presence or in our absence.

InshaAllah Ameen.

Monday, January 02, 2017

Fill Our Hearts

Today is the first day of school. A new school year. My firstborn, looking a little weary as she couldn't sleep much last night (perhaps too excited), managed to set off early for school.
I watched her through the window. DH accompanied her before he went to work. As a mother, that protective feeling drove me to keep watching till she safely got on the bus. But unlike usual days, today a different kind of du'a runs through my system. Usually I would just du'a for her safety and so that she would gain beneficial 'ilm. However, the du'a today goes like this..."Ya Allah, fill her heart with Iman and Taqwa. Let her live with the Akhlaq of Rasulullah s.a.w. whose Akhlaq is the Qur'an..."
That du'a applies to me too. I can't be an effective mother if I can't practise good akhlaq. No matter how advanced a person's knowledge is...I am only comfortable with people who are humble and honest. May Allah s.w.t. erase all the filth from our hearts and fill it with His Light....Ameen....