Friday, March 17, 2017

How to Wear Khimar - Tips for Plus Size

How to Wear Khimar - Tips for the Big Sized

I have a growing interest in more modest hijab and usually find comfort in chiffon khimars. As a beginner, there are a number of things that I have to learn through experience.

Here are a few tips which I have discovered as I familiarise myself with khimar as my hijab. Great tips to bring focus away from the chest area...

1. The colour of your khimar must be DARKER or the SAME colour as your dress. This shifts the focus away from the core area.

2. The material of the khimar must be dull, not shiny.

3. Since there's a lot of fabric as your hijab now, choose dark or flowery. Not light and plain. Else, you risk getting spots of stains.

4. To avoid getting the khimar raised up when blown by strong wind, make sure you keep a few safety pins handy in your purse, so you can secure your khimar any time.

5. When you need to bring up the khimar, especially when going to the ladies or washing the dishes, simply twirl the fabric around the neck and secure the free end with a safety pin.

May these tips help...and may Allah s.w.t. love us more...

Thursday, February 02, 2017

Barakah = No Stress

It's the new economy where everything from food to education is just getting less and less affordable. Everyone is scrambling to secure a good future for their children. Even if it means missing their solah, Even if it means lying to their customers, colleagues or bosses. Even if it means neglecting their children's spiritual development.
 Na'udhubillahi mindhalik.

At the end of the day, all these will boil down to emotional stress, far from contentment. There is simply NO barakah.
What is it about surviving this slow economy that should really matter?

Let's recall the du'a of Prophet Ibrahim a.s. as he left his beloved wife and child in the middle of the lifeless valley. The one du'a he emphasised is so that his children perform their solah regularly. Quran 14:37

Why wasn't safety at the top of the du'a list? Or rizq?

Because he knew that when a person does solah, Allah s.w.t. will take care of all his/her other needs. When you are not with your child, Allah s.w.t. will take care of that child. Like how Allah s.w.t. took care of Prophet Ismail a.s. on the barren land. When our children are in school or hanging out with their friends, the only thing that is between Allah's protection and the devil's whisperings is solah. SubhanAllah.

May Allah s.w.t. bless us with children who dutifuly perform their solah, and remember Him wherever they are, in our presence or in our absence.

InshaAllah Ameen.

Monday, January 02, 2017

Fill Our Hearts

Today is the first day of school. A new school year. My firstborn, looking a little weary as she couldn't sleep much last night (perhaps too excited), managed to set off early for school.
I watched her through the window. DH accompanied her before he went to work. As a mother, that protective feeling drove me to keep watching till she safely got on the bus. But unlike usual days, today a different kind of du'a runs through my system. Usually I would just du'a for her safety and so that she would gain beneficial 'ilm. However, the du'a today goes like this..."Ya Allah, fill her heart with Iman and Taqwa. Let her live with the Akhlaq of Rasulullah s.a.w. whose Akhlaq is the Qur'an..."
That du'a applies to me too. I can't be an effective mother if I can't practise good akhlaq. No matter how advanced a person's knowledge is...I am only comfortable with people who are humble and honest. May Allah s.w.t. erase all the filth from our hearts and fill it with His Light....Ameen....

Sunday, October 20, 2013

If Our Prophet s.a.w Is Still With Us

Monday, August 26, 2013

A Change in Nutrition, Heart and Mind

I have not imagined that I would be making a change in nutrition this soon. A plethora of feelings...shocked, worried, angry, confused, and DRIVEN. It was a MAJOR eyeopener for me.

I was merely observing before this. One by one, among my family members, are falling ill, getting sudden conditions that almost rip their lives off.

My own body has not been showing a good sign since I was diagnosed with cholecystesis in 2009, and now the effect of the gallbladder removal surgery has scarred my digestive life forever.

And the last straw was when my dad's brother succumbed to kidney failure ten days ago. I promised myself to study nutrition and then find out how I can start practising good nutrition habits, plus spread the importance of good nutrition to my family and the rest of the society.

The 12th of August was the start of my nutrition study. So, I began my research into nutrition, and then more and more truths about the food that we are eating are exposed.

See "The Dangers of Our Everyday Food"

And then I discovered MORE about the Deception:

Mental Corruption

The New World Order has manifested in the fast food and entertainment industry. A group of 'elite' people are controlling the entertainment industry, and the group plans to poison the minds of the kids and youth through showing pornographic content and through the habit of eating junk. And if a Muslim is attacked through these ways, the heart, mind and the body of the Muslim will be destroyed, and he or she will forget Allah. This is the goal of the New World Order, for everyone to forget God (in whatever religion you are). So these elite people can implement their selfish plans.

Remember the hadeeth that mentions that the source of illness originates from the stomach. Such a concise and valuable advice for us to heed. The word 'illness' does not only refer to physical illness, but includes intellectual, and emotional.

Processed Foods VS Whole Foods

Scientists have proven that a child who is fed with processed foods before he turns three, can end up with a lower IQ than a child fed with whole foods.

And if the food is processed using evil ways as described for the meat and the chicken industry, what effect will that have to our hearts?

But all in all, this knowledge is not just to fill my curiosity. I am going to use it to my best abilities in looking after my family, and shed a light on the misled society so that we stay away from the things that may harm us.

I end this post with this hadeeth image from Do Not Harm nor Be Harmed.


Monday, July 22, 2013

When One Door Closes, Other Doors Open

Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah...

These few weeks of not being an employed citizen of Singapore, is actually a blessing in disguise. To others, they see me as someone unemployed. But to myself, I believe I am now working more for Allah, to fulfill my mission - my long awaited mission of learning about the role models I missed at the time of the Prophet s.a.w. Yes, his family, his Sahabah, Sahabiyah...

This I believe is the emptiness that I have felt all the while. Being someone who likes to read motivational books, I often questioned myself about the relationship of the content or the tips to Islam. And I would not be able to believe or incorporate the advice suggested unless I see its relevance to attributes of Allah.

For example, one tip which I found useful in my life, is related to a Hadeeth. I could still remember this tip being articulated by Dr Fadzilah Kamsah: 

It's easier for you to pass, than to fail. Exams are meant to make you pass. A teacher will not test you on what you don't know. Allah will give you a test that you CAN PASS.
ěž“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (Qur’an, 2:286).

An excerpt from from the article titled: A Soul's Burden
Even if we pray, fast, pay our zakat and do all different forms of ibadat we still get tested. Sadness sometimes fills our hearts. We could be the best of practicing Muslims, yet poor and unable to put food on our table. We could be rich yet lonely, or young yet unhealthy. It is in these instances that shaytan starts toying with our head. We look at what others have, especially the non-Muslims, and our core gets rattled. The shaytan ignites a fire that gets our blood boiling, hopelessness and frustration set in, and we ask “Oh Allah, why me?! Why am I being punished?”

This was quite similar to what I used to feel. I did ask myself if indeed this problem that I have is a punishment from Allah, and then I got depressed. But I decided to turn my feelings around completely. Instead of getting lost in these negative thoughts, I just sprang into action. Because I know there is a bigger reason why Allah gives this challenge to me: He wants to improve my quality.

I got myself into some really serious learning. I researched what I need to study about web designing. Not only using a single platform but on two different platforms. I invested some money in a course on web designing on a different platform.

Then I set up a website where I record what I find useful and relevant about the heroes and heroines during the Prophet's time. And Alhamdulillah, I made friends with people who are on the same track and we motivate one another. 

Not only that, I have also learned to do more than the basic photo editing and also make typography videos. These skills will be good to know to make video presentations, inshaAllah, as a tool to share useful knowledge.

While I don't look like someone who is contributing to the economy now, I like to see myself as building a legacy, for my children and the rest of the younger generation to benefit from. My blogs and my website, will go to them when I die. This greater awareness of the people of the past, is meaningful to me, because the trials and tribulations they have gone through are much bigger than what I am going through, yet they remained steadfast, they acted courageously, they acted wisely and they seeked Allah's help wholeheartedly.

I hope through reading what I have written, my children will be better equipped to face the challenges of the world, and be motivated to pursue success, not only in this present world, but also in the Hereafter, InshaAllah, Ameen, ameen, ameen!

Friday, March 22, 2013

Waking Up to the Verses of Allah - on TV9

Recently I had the opportunity to be staying at Aloha Resorts in Pasir Ris. One morning I woke up for my Subuh and then I was greeted with the beautiful recitation of the Quran coming from the TV set, which my mom had switched on earlier.

It was a really beautiful experience for me, watching programmes that rejuvenate the soul and to be in a bungalow which allows the ambience of nature in - the living room of the bungalow has an open room concept, so I had a good view of the trees and the beach outside.

By the way, the TV channel I was watching is called TV9, a Malaysian channel that airs educational Islamic shows. I hope this channel can be made more easily available in Singapore, because there are plenty of useful advice and knowledge that we can get from it.

Very relevant for people who spend a lot of their time watching TV and surely a better alternative to watching endless soaps and Indonesian drama series.

Anyone can help me tweak my TV to get this channel?

Picture of my dad, my niece and my daughter in the bungalow's compound @Aloha Resorts