Often people frown on my decision to be a SAHM. "A university graduate gave up her job to look after her baby" seems not to be an ideal scenario for everyone. Because "you need to earn money to help your husband and prepare for the future". Well, what if my husband has brought home enough for the three of us? We can even still afford to shop and eat out sometimes. I believe God has given me far more than enough. This is based on logical thinking that my father used to feed five with the same amount that my husband now has to feed only three. Also I do not fret for the future, because God has prepared what I need.
"A total waste of skills?" Very wrong perception that is. As an author named Dorothy Patterson said..
"Homemaking — being a full-time wife and mother — is not a destructive drought of uselessness but an overflowing oasis of opportunity; it is not a dreary cell to contain your talents and skills but a brilliant catalyst to channel creativity and energies into meaningful work ... it is neither limitation of gifts available nor stinginess in distributing the benefits of those gifts, but rather the multiplication of a mother's legacy to the generations to come and the generous bestowal of all God meant a mother to give to those He entrusted to her care."
What is there to look forward to at the end of earning much and spending it all on expensive items when you can spend much less and enjoy the time with your baby which is exactly what a baby needs most? Why earn and then buy more things for everyone when these things may not necessarily make them happy? The truth is everyone is trapped in the dual income mindset as Heather Koerner puts it best. We spend as if there is we have two persons earning in the house, when we should only consider just a sole breadwinner (the husband) and the wife's income should be all saved as surplus. THIS makes us complacent and starts to spend more.
For me, I firmly stand by my decision to Stay and Work at Home. I do not want to miss out on my child's development, her joy and discoveries. To have a career can be any time much later when my girl has gone to school. But now, especially the first two years of her life, it is important that I share my life with her as much as I can. To teach her new things, understand her emotions, and make her laugh.
I cannot imagine myself working in an office and leaving her to be understood by others who do not know her more than her mom does. Especially when she is still new to the world, and needs my presence to motivate her in her learning journey.
For the people who still frown or laugh at a SAHM, God may be laughing at your ignorance...Because He knows way more than you think you do.